I meet a lot of people who have serious relationship issues with their parents, siblings, neighbors, etc. It seems like in the recent years we have forgotten the true meaning of Love. Every aspect is dependent on over expectations, which is killing the joy of simple living. Some of us make a decision and impose on the person we claim to love. Where is that emotion called LOVE? of being truly accepting the other person the way he /she is. We are really working hard to change the other person the way we are, and not accepting the individual with his/her own mindset. The crux of happy and peaceful life is simple acceptance of the vibes that suits you. When we love a flower like Rose, we do not make effort to convert it to Lilly, do we? If your answer is yes, then you are wrong my friend. We are just making castles in the air and when the reality breaks the fiction, it’s quite painful.
Relationship Advice
Let your kids grow, listen to them, listen to the advice and believe me kids are far more intelligent as compared to a grownup person as he has the potential to question, his mind is not blocked with the limited knowledge, he is curious, dissatisfied with every bookish answer. Once we stop listening, we close our doors of self-progress (would explain in my next blog). When I was in my teenage, I was completely rejected for my suggestion and even discussions, this created a sense of dumbness in me and introvert nature overshadowed my mind. Well that may be the case for me but it might create another personality for other person.
Parents are always a step ahead of the social circle and the experience of the roadblocks they have faced. The wrinkles explain the time they have spent on understanding all different temperaments. The family they have been brought-up by, the legacy of ancestor, general beliefs, religion etc. They are far more capable of guiding the new generation of loop holes and flaws, thus it is best to at least listen to them.
We all have at least one friend with whom we share our problems, that friend could be anyone mom, dad, colleague, brother, sister, etc. Just don’t live the life all by yourself, we have been raised in a society where, since childhood we are taught to share, so does Love. I do not disagree with the fact that some of us can really maintain the equilibrium of our mind by not sharing the feelings with anyone, the situations made us the way we react. My only point here is to let the feeling flow and make the person near to you, be approachable, it will spread joy. The word “Feeling” here refers to is Care we do for each other.
In simple words they occupy a lot of information which can be very valuable.
Getting back to the crux, Love, just care for people around you, you never know what they are facing, where are they coming from, let them feel safe, desired, let the feel of humanity flourish. We wait for miracle to happen but its all within us to make thing moving for ourselves. Just believe in Karma, do good for someone today, it will be returned as a favor by someone else. It is Karma Chakkar, what we sow is what we reap.
It’s quite difficult for most of the people to leave aside the Ego. Let me explain this in a bit detail. At times we stand rock solid by our decision to, or not to, do accomplish a task and its quite difficult to accept the change (another blog explains it in details). Dear all its just one life we all live, accept the fact if you are wrong at time and revert, take a U turn, nothing wrong in it. I strictly advice not to take a hit on Self-respect but leave aside Ego, it helps to solve a lot of relationship issues.
Conclusion
Conclusion for a meaningful relationship and a happy atmosphere is respect the individual, sentiments, nature, views, etc. Start listening to each other, do not listen to respond, just listen to understand, I am quite certain this will bring about a lot of change in the way we look at the world now.
