Do you know What is Love?

Love, a feeling which is related to heart and often misunderstood by many. Simple as it may seem, every effort you make to take care of somebody and be accessible when the person is feeling down and accompany them in happiness. The word “Love” was never meant to be spoken to let your feelings be understood, rather its was supposed to be expressed by the wonderful actions and unpretentious questions like,

Hey, did you have sound sleep?

How was your day?

Had lunch on time?

How everything going?

Assures the listener of their presence in someone’s life, a reason to smile, motivation to struggle harder and fight the momentous battle of life, within a fraction of second, this care could rejuvenate the spirit. Believe me, you are luckiest if someone is concerned about you because I have seen a lot of people dying inside due to lack of Love and care. We human beings are designed in a way where the absence of socializing, leads to the dead-end of a happy mind.

Let me try to get into the depth and explain what happens to be the most confusing part of Love and interpreted wrongly by all different “victims” (I would say victims because lesser knowledge or wrong information creates a lot of havoc). You cannot start loving a person just by getting a glimpse, so it’s totally wrong to say, “Love at First Sight”, its mere Infatuation, modern language calls it as Crush, which is an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone. How can to fall in love with someone, when you don’t even know them, their attitude, their mindset their reaction, etc.? How do you gauge compatibility? Just a charming smile or the way they flaunt their hairs or the way they carry themselves in a particular attire would only attract you, That’s the feeling “Attraction”, when you get butterflies in the stomach or goosebumps or maybe tickling. Its evident teenagers often get confused, but sad part is adult and mature people fail to understand the same and fall prey. I personally know some and seen cases wherein attraction confused with love led to ruined families. The decisions are taken to share the entire life together under the marriage institution, at the stage where attraction played a significant role, with time when the attitude and conduct becomes intolerable leads to unfortunate situations.

I feel so ashamed to share this but few individuals represent love just to satisfy lust, don’t forget, consent of love in closed rooms is just “Lust”. I feel pity for individuals and couples who mistakenly or knowingly show affection of Love whereas its all about covetousness of spending time together. Lust could be an outcome of strong infatuation or attraction, it’s a request to you all to be honest with the person you approach and don’t play with anyone’s emotions. If its lust be brave enough to accept the fact and talk about it on the face, if you cannot then don’t brand it as Love.

Youngster are often found deleting and blocking the most dialed numbers. Promises of staying together forever, broken within seconds, how miserable it is, “telling” a person about the immense so-called love and leaving them in the pool of tears.

Love doesn’t happen at the blink of an eye, you fall in love with an individual’s Mind, i.e. thoughts, reactions to the situation, handling of complicated circumstances, level of maturity, the way person looks at the world and people in it, the way they accept you and your habits. Believe me when that mental level matches, nobody wants to part ways. Pure love never expects a return, its flow of positivity, it’s all about seeing the person you love to be happy, smiling, effort to clean the thorns from the path of your beloved. When you love someone, you don’t cut off their wings and put them in the cage just to be yours, that feeling of obtaining is not Love, you love a person for what they really are when you accept a person, you certainly accept the people and thing attached with them. The pleasure of watching them happy, either it’s with you or someone else. If you don’t, then they don’t remain what they actually were. One of the authors wrote a beautiful line it always strikes my mind “create a cemetery in your heart, where you can bury all the mistakes of your loved one”. Don’t get me wrong, blunders are supposed to be fixed. The purity of love can be defined only by the action’s & affection, for example, the relation between parents and children, parents would do everything, they can to make sure their child is happy, has a bright future, the child doesn’t get into an impression of being chained, etc. Its always toxic to impose decisions, suggestions are always welcome, just trust the decision-making power. Well said and accepted for fake love “it’s easy to be in love with someone, but hardest to stay in Love”, so Pure love is never-ending. How can you stop caring for a person whom you loved?

Believe me, Another Little Thing is realizing the truth, infatuation and attraction is not a feeling of love but an initial stage of love. Its quite easy to start liking someone for their behavior, their Mind might intoxicate you and create a desire to know more. That’s where the quest begins and chapter for Love starts. Once this feeling of Love grips you, it takes you a step further, that no one might have explained yet, never talked about, its Addiction. Just remember what I told you about True Love, want to read it again, fellas, scroll it up and make sure not to mess up the different emotions, so addiction is the final stage of True Love, wherein you are dependent and you reach numbness of thoughts when you imagine losing the loved one.

To be continued….